Questions You Should Ask Yourself When Considering Adoption, 11/8/2019

It’s no doubt that the adoption process can seem daunting. We’re here to help! Here are a few questions you should ask when considering adoption. 

Question: What are the child’s current routine and schedule?

Understanding the existing routine of the child’s life will be advantageous in their adaptation process. Speak with your caseworker and therapist to gain insight into the daily activities your child participates in to help them retain a sense of normalcy in their new home.

Question: What type of relationship did the child have with their birth parents?

It’s important to understand the child’s previous or existing relationship with their birth parents. The quality of their relationship with their birth parents may affect how they attach to their new family and home. Remember that foster care children are victims of circumstance. Time and patience are required to ensure a welcoming environment. 

Question: What types of behaviors are you willing to work with? Which behaviors do you consider unacceptable?

If you’re adopting a child with a traumatic past, you must be prepared to ask yourself what kind of behaviors are you willing to accept and which are unacceptable. It will be vital to study your child’s records and diagnoses from the caseworker and therapist to help you understand the potential behaviors of your child. This will help you determine your boundaries as it relates to behavior.  

Question: If the child is not a member of my race/ethnicity, how do they feel about being a member of a family of my race/ethnicity?

Blending into a new home is difficult. Blending into a new home of a different race/ethnicity is even more challenging. Make sure to check with the child to get their thoughts and concerns around joining a family of different races/ethnicity. Are you willing to incorporate the traditions and values of the child’s race/ethnicity into your home? 

Question: Are you open to a child who expresses confusion regarding their gender or sexual identity? 

It’s necessary to understand the identity of your child. Speak with caseworkers and therapists to gain an understanding of how your child currently identifies. Be sure to educate yourself on the fluidity of gender identity and sexual orientation. Are you open and prepared to have a child who expresses confusion regarding their gender or sexual identity? 

These are just five ways to prepare yourself as you consider adopting. To speak with an adoption specialist, please contact (313) 531-6190 or CLICK HERE for more information.